This is one of our favorite recurring date ideas as a couple. Guessing “who done it?” with murder mystery theater can be a really fun date idea you can often do again and again over the course of a long relationship (with different stories each time because the theater troupes that do these kinds of shows regularly change the show so as to have a mystery that appeals to the same people who previously saw the last show.)
And who knows, you might even be good enough at it to win!
-- Mr. and Mrs. Cubic Zirconia
Do you cook together with your significant other?
Cooking can be a chore.
It can be a chore, too for couples cooking together…or it can be great quality time-- a cheap, easy, simple and relaxing couples’ hobby to reconnect after some time apart.
Cooking together regularly with my wife is one of my greatest pleasures.
With the right ingredients, cooking together is a recipe not just for tasty food but for a stronger relationship, too.
Here’s what Mrs. Cubic Zirconia and I think are the ingredients to doing it right.
Plenty of parents teach their children the importance of brushing their teeth, how to cook a pot roast or that they must look both ways before crossing the street. Yet parents of previous generations didn’t teach their kids much about:
how to have a healthy sex life
how to deal with interpersonal conflict in the home
how to handle change.
If your experience was anything like ours, your parents did a shitty job preparing you for marriage.Here are 3 things your parents probably didn’t tell you about marriage, either:
Thing 1: Diplomacy or Divorce (Get Ready to Negotiate)
Thing 2: Sex Is Fun…Usually
Thing 3: Everything Changes (So Will You, Your Spouse, and Your Marriage)
Let’s not blame too much, ok? It’s unlikely whomever raised you learned these things from whomever raised them either.
Building a home together– while it may be super stressful– can also be one of the most fun couple’s activities in a lifetime of life, love and laughter. If you’re currently building a house, this 10-step blueprint might give you some tips. But more importantly…if you’re married, reading today’s post showing how building a house is like building a marriage could help strengthen your relationship. And if you’re married AND building a house together with your significant other... God help you ('cuz that ish can be stressful).
We're guessing that most of our readers and customers may experiment at times with something spicier than normal in the sex department, but that-- like us-- you, too, probably don't keep a gigantic motorized ‘cowgirl’ sex saddle or electronic blowjob machine in your closet. Even though there are women who’ve never experienced an orgasm-- and women who most predictably can come to orgasm only with the help of something besides a partner’s body parts utilized in traditional intercourse, this NSFW article isn’t for everyone. Some readers may find any discussion of dildos and g-spot gizmos controversial. Yet more than half the world has a clitoris…and we’re gonna talk about it.
Marriages are dying every day because of couples’ failures to continue dating-- years and decades after the courtship period-- when it feels hard to make time due to our urgency addictions, modern busyness, procrastination and inertia.
Yet we MUST make time to date our significant other regularly-- especially after marriage and children. It’s important…but IT'LL NEVER BE URGENT (until and unless it becomes almost too late). You can make it easy despite a busy life by creating a date ritual with some basic pre-planning of what to do, where and how. Here's one date ritual we have to ensure quality time together, both free and costing money-- time without kids, having zero errands to run, no tasks to complete and with no agenda except enjoying one another’s company. -- Mr. and Mrs. Cubic Zirconia
Here's how lots of marriages fail: one of the partners develops some interest or urge that he or she is ashamed of -- or is scared to talk to his/her partner about.
They say nothing for days, weeks, months, or years, until the secret gets exposed.
Don’t blindside your partner one day and make them feel like they married a stranger when they find out you’ve always wanted to move to Spain, you hate your job and were just pretending to like it for years, or say it’s always been your fantasy to be handcuffed in bed.
Those desires don’t happen overnight. Daily communication is key. The earlier you talk about potential issues the better.
Ants are thrifty and efficient, work hard and save, exercise plenty, look to the future and manage to get everything they can out of everything they’ve got. Grasshoppers prioritize rest, play and partying, and tend to spend more than they earn (eat more than they harvest). It could be because they’re lazier and more wasteful than ants, though in a judgment-free zone we’d just say they prefer to enjoy today without worries about tomorrow.So what happens when an ant (saver) marries a grasshopper (spender)?It should be pretty obvious that a marriage between the an ant and a grasshopper CAN be troublesome and MAY end badly in our opinion...unless the 2 agree to do some or all of these 9 things.
Marriage can be an excellent source of high-quality, remember-it-forever memories. But it’s not really meant to be one of those ‘try-it-and-then-I'll-buy-it’ deals.
Let’s be honest: considering the divorce rate, there have been a LOT of marriages in the last 50 years that never should have happened (and wouldn’t have in our opinion if he/she REALLY knew each other). Why?
ONE BIG REASON: Most individuals in heading-toward-marriage relationships don’t ask the tough questions nearly enough before taking such a big, life-altering action.
Thinking of a wedding? You should be asking tough questions every week before you make that decision: questions about yourself, your intended spouse, your values and goals (separately and together)-- tough questions LIKE THESE.
In good times, happy couples laugh off trivial issues and petty annoyances with their partner.
When things are going well, she’d feel silly to get too angry about his socks left on the bathroom counter, his beard stubble in the sink, or accidentally touching her tush to the cold porcelain in the middle of the night because he left the toilet seat up again.
During trying times, her comment about which way to drive and get there faster is perceived as a personal attack, her wet towel on the carpet might cause him to yell with frustration, and her every failing might be magnified a hundredfold and become a relationship-defining ultimatum.
In the rough times, healthy communication between partners breaks down, and once-ready-to-forgive attitudes become so much more difficult to maintain.
That’s why we say that every happily married person can answer this ONE question.
Did you ever play the boardgame Battleship when you were younger?
If you’ve never played, the rules are simple: it’s a guessing game where you sink your opponent’s hidden ships when your “torpedo shot” guesses about the location for each ship on a grid are correct. Whoever sinks the other player’s full navy first wins.
If you and your “ship’s mate” significant other have been recently awash in screen time and looking to try a different tack in the romance department, here's why we think playing Battleship is a fun game for couples to play together during quality time-- no matter your age!
"I’m a beginner at poker”, she said before we started the game. Then she took all my poker chips (it seemed like she KNEW WHAT CARDS I WAS HOLDING!)-- plus three flawless 3 carat stones the game observers at the same party believed were genuine diamonds worth hundreds of thousands of US dollars. My super sneaky wife is the reason why. Here's the story...Plus I'll explain how if you ever lose a single stone you purchased from CubicZirconia.com, it won’t be expensive to replace.
Ever feel like your life in 2021 operates in only 3 modes:
Rewind
Play
Fast-forward?
Today I wanna ask each of our readers-- especially those in a committed relationship-- to hit pause. To take a breath. To slow down, and look beyond our daily routine.
To make sure we don’t take for granted something special that we experience so often that we may neglect to give it our undivided attention and unqualified appreciation.
I wanna ask you to stop and look around with full attention (which in today’s crazy, keyed-up, hectic and busy world full of routine, obligations, distractions and needs...is the only sure way I know of to appreciate what’s right in front of us).
"I'll be right back," she said with a suggestive kiss of my ear.
30 minutes later I found her asleep in my daughter's bed with her iPad on her chest and our little girl Hope curled up with her head under my wife's arm. In marriage with kids, things like this will happen.There's unscheduled sex and there's no schedule for sex.But in my experience over the years...one of the easiest ways to create the perfect environment for sex to happen naturally is to block off the time together and challenge your significant other to a sweet and spicy couple’s game night: like an old-fashioned game night with a naughty nipple twist.
I have a confession. It’s been over 5 years since I’ve swept, mopped or vacuumed, dusted, or done laundry. Before the verbal attack, you should know that my wife Mrs. Cubic Zirconia does little to none of this stuff either. Here's why we decided to invest in a housekeeper.
Today’s blog post will be a Godsend if you’ve been thinking over how to talk with your significant other about an important but tough-to-tackle topic you keep avoiding.
That’s because a movie that shows and tells a certain topic in a powerful way can be a PERFECT conversational opener for her to talk to him-- or vice versa-- about that topic in a non-threatening and totally natural way.
